Here is part five of the “Becoming A Better You” series. Loving you is an important aspect in life. When you love yourself, you have standards! People will no longer be allowed to mistreat you. They will no longer be allowed to walk all over you. You will no longer allow people to use and abuse you. Loving on you involves doing something nice for yourself. Well, when was the last time that you did something nice for yourself?
Two years ago, I declared over myself that I would start loving on me. Before then, I was severely depressed and just going about the normal routine such as work, dropping the kids to school, church, and that was it. I had no social life. There was no fun. I didn’t dress up or fix myself up. I was in need of a new wardrobe. I didn’t shave, and the list continues. I totally let myself go. I prayed for everyone except myself. When was the last time you prayed for yourself? Many moms and wives totally neglect themselves after marriage and parenthood. I was one of them.
Don’t neglect yourself. Two years ago, after I made those declarations, I began to love on me. I didn’t have a lot of money at the time so I did a lot of things at home. I did my own pedicures and manicures. I did my own facials. I did my own deep conditioning treatments. I cooked my favorite meals. Prior to that, I made up excuses not to cook such as me being single. I went into the kitchen and cooked like I had a husband. I invested in myself. I brought a few new outfits because I was way overdue. I started exercising and made healthier choices.
I decided to forgive the people who hurt me. Since, I decided to love myself, forgiving others was necessary. I refused to allow those old wounds and painful baggage to be connected to me any further. I learned that forgiveness was for me and not necessarily the other person. The people who I were mad at moved on with their lives and I was the one stuck in the pain. Ephesians 4:32 says, “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.” When I decided to let it go, God healed me. I started to love my neighbor as myself. Some people struggle with loving others because they don’t love themselves. This was my problem, but it changed when I allowed God to do a great work in me.
Romans 13:9 says, “For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” Whenever you love on you, there is no time for foolish things. There is no room for adultery, murder, theft, lying, and coveting because you are going places and there is a mandate to fulfill. When I embraced loving myself, I let go of my past mistakes. Many people are still bound by past mistakes and this isn’t the will of God.
There is no condemnation in Christ when you are walking in the spirit (Romans 8:1). When I meditated on this scripture, I was set free. When people came to me to gossip, I shut it down. I declared that I was no one’s trash can. I didn’t allow people to weigh me down with their garbage. I didn’t want to feel bad anymore by allowing people to drain me spiritually with their problems that were out of my control. Don’t allow people to weigh you down with their drama. When I started to love on me, I was drama free. Think of yourself as a jewel. You are valuable. It’s time to love on you!
Now, repeat after me. “I decree and declare that I will love on me this year. I will forgive people that hurt me and move on with my life. I will invest in myself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I will pray for myself. I will not neglect myself. I decree that God will bless me with my heart’s desires this year.”